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I hope this helps, Lola and wish you all the very best. Even if you don't agree with her thoughts, they are very real for her so simply acknowledging them might be a way of building bridges. May I ask when this all started? Is she unhappy about something, struggling to cope with anything or generally just feels "hard done by". Talking might not be easy right now, but can you write her a letter? Perhaps say that despite all your differences, you don't want your relationship to breakdown even if that meant she were to live elsewhere. I think some of the other posts may be right in that sometimes you have to look beneath a teen's behaviour to work out what's going on for them. Hostility tends to meet hostility so if you could change your approach, it might throw her and force her to rethink her actions too. Take some deep breaths and think back to happier times with her as this might change your thoughts towards her and the vibes she's picking up from you.
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It could be that she doesn't yet have the maturity to know how to change this situation so you might find that it's you who has to steer this. THere's such a fine line between these areas, but try to keep this thought at the front of your mind as it might help you move forward with this.Įven though you feel it might be better for her to live elsewhere, I also sense that you don't want your relationship with her to breakdown completely. It might help to bear in mind that it's her behaviour you dislike so much - not necessarily her. The tension at home must be really unbearable, as I imagine your mood rapidly changes as soon as she walks in the room. All that you describe is clearly pushing your patience to its absolute max. Thankyou all again for your advice it is ALL gratefully recieved xx I am aware of the other children and their feelings towards all this and they will come first, they have to but i will not give up on my dd, i am feeling much more positive about it. I did write individual replies to Callie Linda and aleisha, i know that no matter how bad things get i couldnt see my DD out on the street i would be worried sick, luckily my mother has said that if it gets really bad again my dd can go live with her for as long as it takes, she lives 80 mile away so dd would be away from all her friends and family and she would hate it, but if i have to do that then i will. Its good to know im not alone and i so hope things will get better. None of your replies are useless, i have taken something out of each. I have just posted a long thread to say how grateful i am for your replies but the bleedin computer went wrong and wiped if off.Arrggghhhh.Īnyway thankyou again for taking the time to reply, i feel better after reading them. Thanks for reading im not sure what advice im looking for but i hate feeling like this. sorry for the moan but i need to tell someone and i think if one more friend says "typical teen" i will loose the plot. I really dont know what to do next, im at the stage where i dont want anything to do with her, and cant wait until she tells me she is moving out.which isnt going to happen really. My eldest really really makes me angry to the point where i have gone to slap her but been stopped by my oh. Im not a strict parent really, my kids can basically do as they like (within reason) as long as i know where they are and they stick to the times i tell them to come home. She is very very lazy and has been trying to get a part time job for the past 6 months and still hadnt had one interview or call about one dispite her telling me she has applied for alot. She lies all the time, she bunks off college,she smokes, she asked me if she could have a tattoo i said no, she went and had one anyway.
She has in the past slept around, taken drugs, and stolen out of my purse and her sisters money box. She is 17 and it makes me sick to think how much i dislike her. She makes me so angry i cannot stand her.
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